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Are You In a Toxic Relationship?


how to end a relationshipIs Your Relationship Toxic?


How to know if your relationship is bad or if your relationship is hurting you
By Bailey Landon

 

Toxic relationships are a fact of life for many people, men and women alive, both young and older.  Often family and friends can see the effects in the relationship but the one living in it cannot or will not.  Some want someone to ‘love’ them so badly they think most any type of attention is love and fail to see that they are in a toxic relationship, one that may not necessarily be abusive, but one that is dragging them down and is not healthy.

 

One of the first steps to healing is to admit there is a problem.  There is always a chance and hope that the spouse will change, but the reality is that change is unlikely for someone who only knows how to hurt another person.  It can be said that some spouses do not realize what they are doing, and they can be helped.  It can also be said that some know exactly what they are doing, leaving getting out of the relationship as the only healthy solution.

 

A spouse that loves you is not going to spend their time tearing you down, making you look foolish, talking down to you, or saying hurtful and derogatory things. Rather the one that loves you will want to be near you, they uplift you and encourage you, and they never seek to hurt you or make you sad.

 

Signs that you’re in a bad relationship or a relationship that is toxic:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Perhaps the most hurtful thing about a toxic relationship is the fact that this is the person that is supposed to love you and care for you, but instead they seek to hurt you and cause you emotional distress and pain. 

 

A person in a toxic relationship might have a difficult time letting go of it.  Sometimes they feel as that there is no one else for them, thinking that they aren’t good enough for someone that will truly love them and care for them.  Often a person caught in a bad relationship stays because even though it is a terrible relationship, their spouse has convinced them that no one else could possibly want them.

 

This cycle of thinking has to be broken.  There is hope and there is healing.  In order to obtain the happiness that is waiting, the person living in this type of relationship must make the decision to get out of it.  There is a light at the end of the tunnel.  There is hope.

 

A healthy relationship can be obtained once the person in the bad relationship recognizes the need for a better life and gets out of the abusive relationship. The first step in healing is removing yourself from the relationship.

 

A loving relationship allows no room for toxic behavior. In a healthy relationship, a spouse listens to the other.  The spouse doesn’t seek to hurt you, to make fun of you, to use you as the joke of the party.  The spouse in a healthy relationship wants to be with you, doesn’t check up on you all the time, doesn’t use any excuse to make you look bad, doesn’t seek to embarrass you in front of family and friends, doesn’t try to control you. 

 

A healthy relationship finds a couple who are happy with each other and understand each other, who know the other isn’t perfect but accepts and loves the person as they are.  They don’t seek to change each other, they stand with each other through anything and everything, and the only tears they want to cause the other are tears are happiness. 

 

You can read more about toxic relationships at Breaking Up With Your Narcissist


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