Daily Inspirations for those Recovering from a Narcissist






"Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be attained only by someone who is detached." ~Simone Weil

Breaking up with a dysfunctional narcissist is like waking up from a coma. You have to re-learn even the most basic things of your daily life. This is because during the course of the relationship with your narcissist YOU were slowly, and methodically, being ‘erased’.

Did you know that it is much harder for us to let go of a dysfunctional partner and/or relationship, than a relationship shared between two emotionally and physically healthy individuals? This is because we tend to invest more where we feel we are needed the most, and less where we feel we are needed the least. We are kept attached by our very investment, our concern, and our need to make 'sense' of – and to make right – the dysfunction, itself.

When we are with a partner who has problems (or issues) we may go above and beyond to make that partner happy and healthy. Should the relationship end we tend to blame ourselves, thinking that we didn't try hard enough, that we didn't follow the correct course, or that we didn't take action in the right way.

Add to this the fact that we, by our very nature, worry about our partners. We tend to love more those who least deserve it for we feel that they are the ones who need our love the most.

Ironically, this means that – for some of us – the worse the narcissist treated us or behaved towards us, the stronger we felt the need to love and protect them and their ’image’.  As if loving them harder would make both of our lives easier.

~~Today I will understand that I may be attached to someone based on my need to help or fix that person. Today I will learn that I can let go and move past this attachment, safe in the knowledge that I need 'me', too, and I will invest more time concentrating on my own health and happiness. It is time to stop neglecting me; it is time to stop leaving my soul starving for the attention it was being deprived of while I was concentrating my efforts on that of fixing another.

Just for today I will stop trying to make sense of the senseless, and understand that not all questions have – or need – answers and solutions. I understand that sometimes the best solution can be found in just letting go and letting a Higher Power dictate the laws of the universe.~~

"He who is overly attached to his family members experiences fear and sorrow, for the root of all grief is attachment. Thus one should discard attachment to be happy." ~Chanakya

"In all our contacts it is probably the sense of being really needed and wanted which gives us the greatest satisfaction and creates the most lasting bond." ~Eleanor Roosevelt

"Codependency is not about a relationship with an addict, it is the absence of relationship with self." ~from: Broken Toys Broken Dreams, by Terry Kellogg




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