If the narcissist leaves you feeling unheard, it’s because you are. The narcissist has no interest in you, your life, your hopes, dreams, worries or accomplishments. He/she doesn’t care about your day, your sadness nor your joy. Other than to feed his/her own ego, you have no value to the narcissist as a person, and he/she holds no interest in you – whatsoever. Once you stop the feedback, his/her interest in you stops.
But not all feedback is positive; even controlling you, destroying you or your reputation, finagling over child custody – or overpowering you and making you crazy, worry, be scared or get frustrated brings feelings of power and supremacy to the narcissist.
The narcissist is the master manipulator, and even if feigning an occasional interest in what you have to say will give him/her control over you, he/she will do it. This occasional feigned interest may keep you hanging on…like licking up the crumbs from a promised cookie – he/she now has your attention again. And his/her ego bathes in the delight of it.
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